Dear Readers, Would You Marry......

I usually stick to writing posts of current events and happening, but allow me to vent (and ask your advice!) for a moment, will you?

You see, a close friend of mine, let's call her... um, Biola is going through some serious drama-rama. Biola and her ex, Mike (I'm changing all the names in this saga, btw), had dated for almost three years, but broke up 4 months ago because he "needed space to find his own happiness."

Biola was heartbroken, but gradually--thanks to a big career boost and the support of her awesome friends, natch--things were looking up.

Cut to one week ago: Biola's best friend, Tara, called. Tara admitted that she and Mike have been secretly dating, and she said they are (gag) in love and planning to get married.

After lots of tears, Biola told Tara she felt betrayed and wasn't sure she could continue the friendship--the trust between them was gone. Biola was yelling and crying, sure, but obviously this was a huge shock. She told Tara that if she ended the relationship with Mike now, all would be forgiven, but Tara couldn't believe Biola would make her choose.

Next, Biola called Mike and, well, gave him a piece of her mind. I believe the word "liar" was used often, and she told him he ruined a friendship and should have told her from the very beginning. He defended Tara, told Biola that yelling wouldn't help anything, and that he was "sorry she was hurt."

Now, let's jump to yesterday: Mike sent Biola a long email that starts out, and I quote, "You need to hear some hard truths if you ever want to be happy again."

In summary, he details in length everything he thought was wrong in their relationship and what he thinks she should have done instead. He also says Biola should be more supportive of his new relationship with Tara. They knew Biola would be upset, he says, but she's overreacting and acting like a child. It ends with him declaring he's ready to forgive and move on to being friends.

Ahem, WHAT?!

Mike and the ex-BFF say they didn't start dating until after Biola and Mike were over, but does it even matter? Personally, I think this guy is a lowlife scrub, and I don't think I would have behaved differently if I were in Biola's place. In my 300 level at the university, my ex started "going out" with a friend mere days after we broke up. It wasn't cool then, and it's not cool now.

So, I'm asking you dear readers: is Biola overreacting? Or is it totally normal to be hurt/mad/upset by this? How would you respond to Mike's email? And has a similar situation ever happened to you? What did you do?!

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